You’ve been burning the candle at both ends trying to juggle being a parent to your own children, being devoted to your career, spending time with friends, pursuing certain hobbies, and lately being a caregiver to your elderly mother. Life as a caregiver can completely upend everything else you have going on in your life. It can cause you to lose focus and balance. Assisted living can help you get that balance back in your life.
How can assisted living make a difference?
Maybe you don’t think your elderly mother is interested in assisted living. That may be true, but have you talked to her about it? Some people bring up the topic of assisted living and other senior care options and their elderly parent or grandparent quickly dismisses it, so they drop it.
But, one of the key reasons why so many seniors might dismiss the concept of moving to assisted living is because they don’t know very much about it and cling to misconceptions instead. This could very well describe your mother.
Assisted living, if your mother chooses this, would allow you to find balance in your life once more. You can do this by reprioritizing the things that had been set aside.
You become a caregiver for somebody else, that becomes your priority. Even if you don’t want to, it will often infiltrate every aspect of your life, causing you to spend less time with your growing children, your spouse, partner, friends, and maybe even your career.
Millions of family caregivers find themselves spending less and less time at work, with their own family, and more and more time with the person who needs them at that moment.
How can you talk about assisted living and your caregiver time with your elderly mother?
Your mom loves you. She wants what’s best for you. She may simply not realize how stressful this has been for you and how much you’ve given up for her.
Talk to her about the struggles you are facing currently. She will listen. And, if she doesn’t, what you need to do is set limits on your time. Tell her you won’t be able to visit as often as you have been.
You’ll have to figure out what needs to be done on those couple or few days a week when you will be able to stop by. When she realizes just how much time you are devoting to her and how it is negatively affecting your life, emotions, or even your physical health, she’ll likely listen about assisted living. And that can help you return some balance into your life.